Tantra & the YONI

There is a lot of weird information about the yoni.  Much it is directly connected to slut shaming.  Women who have lots of partners have loose vaginas?  Really? How does that work.  If I fuck my husband a thousand times or if I fuck a thousand men once, it is the same amount of sex.   The vagina is the same.  Childbirth doesn’t ruin vaginas.  However it takes about 6 months for them to get back to pre-childbirth shape. Menopause doesn’t ruin your vagina.  Having an active sex life, using an estrogen ring or cream keeps the yoni in shape.  Most women see no decrease in sexual function until 65.  The lack of feeling sexy has more to do with perception than reality.    The links takes you to some good facts on the yoni.







Tantra teaches us to be whole; it teaches acceptance and unity.  The gift it gives is not just great sex, but the ability to be 100% present in your day to day life.  And that gift means you are present with your partner during sex and whe ever you are together, the busy worried mind is no more.


Learning Tantra can be a difficult process. I have simplified that process into 3 major components that covers the fullness and beauty of Tantra.

1-The philopshy and the history are taught along with the major sutras. This from the foundation of Tantra and to be successful in making changes these need to be learned. Each lesson comes with exercises and activities to reinforce the principles of Tantra.

2-The sacred Tibetan Healing Meditations. These are not readily available and they bring deep healing to the body and presence and peace to the mind. They calm the over busy mind.

3-The Fun Stuff: Sex, Intimacy, the Lingam and Yoni Massage. You learn Tantric Touch, Tantric Communication based on Non Violent Communication several different wants to move sex energy through the body to experience higher degrees of pleasure. Plus how to have a full body orgasm and turn sex into a sacred bonding experience.

$179.99 Bonus. A Couple workbook with 7 days of pleasure and intimacy exercises.


I am often asked questions about my own life and when I say I live alone and have for a long time.  The responses I get are often, where you hurt badly by a man? No, I didn’t have a terrible marriage, but I was not suited for marriage.

Question 2: How can you teach intimacy if you are single? 

This is a rather interesting question.  One, both people must agree on what intimacy is ? Intimacy isn’t sex.  Sex is sex.  While I believe in sacred sex and know we can heal ourselves through pleasure I also understand that sex isn’t intimacy.

Does that mean sex isn’t intimate? Sex can be truly intimate and connect us deeply with the other person.  However when we are disconnected from our own bodies or disconnected from our partners, the sex we have is not intimate sex.   I had sex with my ex-husband for five years and there was no intimacy or intimate connection.

Men and women view things differently.  Men will often only see intimacy as sex.  Women will often see intimacy as talking and being held or cuddled.

Intimacy is much greater than that.  Intimacy is being connected to another person or even ourselves, or our spiritual practice or even other sentient beings.

One of the most intimate things I did as a child was sit with my Grandmother Mary.  I would sit on the sofa and read her magizines and she would rock in her rocking chair and nap. If we talked it didn’t amount to much.  It was small talk, but the time was like being held in a magical space. Intimacy is the feeling of connection.

Tantra first connects us with our own bodies so we can be truly intimate with ourselves.

Secondly Tantra connects us with our partners

Last Tantra connects us with the universal energy of love and peace.

The P Spot-Tantra And Ass Stuff


No one likes a man’s ass more than I do.  However, I have never been very successful finding the prostrate and massaging it.  My fingers are sort of short.  Other than ogling more than my fair share of men’s butts I don’t have any real experience in this area.

So I found this funny and educational article.   This picture is of the dancer Mikhail Baryshnikov and it is well established he had the best butt in the world.  http://www.biography.com/people/mikhail-baryshnikov-9201142