Tantra sex: one easy tip to change your sex life for the better

There is one simple Tantra principle, one Tantric Tip that can completely change your sex life for the better with your partner or your self.  You don’t have to learn a new technique or go to a fancy class or do anything.  

All you have to do is change one simple idea.  You need to learn one different way of thinking.

It sounds simple.  It is.  Tantra offers some of the simplest ways to change your life. Tantra is not complicated.  It has been very secerative.  I personally have a goal to make it less secerative.  Ideas, techniques, meditations that have the ability to improve your life shouldn’t be kept for a select few.  It is irresponsible.

The TANTRIC SEX tip that will instantly improve your life.  It is intention.  That is it.

What do you mean? 

When you have sex or do anything in life do it with intention.  When I do a tantra massage I have one intention.  It is for my hands to convey compassion, acceptance, and pleasure.  Everything else just falls into place. That intention overrides and fear or stress or anxiety of the person receiving the massage.  

In sex go to your partner with one intention.  You tantric sex tip is to approach girls partner with the intention of giving them pleasure.  Your willingness to give pleasure also opens you up to accepting pleasure.   Feeling mutual pleasure opens you up to compassion and love.  

That is simple.  Rather than than have the intention of getting your on pleasure focus on giving and that will pay off by your partner wanting to return pleasure. 

Tantric Sexual Energy

Recently I have read a lot about holding on to sexual energy and energetic ties with former partners.  I have mixed feeling about both.  I do believe as the article states that a major part of Tantra is building sexual energy.  We call that riding the Tiger or Walking the Razor’s Edge.  However, it is not the purpose of Tantra.  Tantra is the full joyful expression of our sexuality without shame or guilt. Sex is an amazing opportunity to connect with a person on a deep soulful level.  In a way that nothing else offers.  Scared sex, tantric sex isn’t a cheap substitute for love.  It is love.  Even sex at a common level still has the ability to touch us in a way nothing else can.  Men when they seek out sex and want sex are often saying in an inarticulate manner, I need connection, I hurt and need comfort, I want to know you love me and I love you.  It is unfortunate that we don’t communicate about sex better. However, I am a great believer in the  healing power of sex and the power of the body to speak for us if we are willing to listen.  I believe in sex that is a conscious choice and building sexual energy within us, but to experience higher more scared levels of pleasure.   The pleasure and unity of orgasms, if it can be held on to, helps us achieve enlightenment.

Tantra is about controlling sexual energy to use it in a way that is joyful and gives you the very most pleasure.   Tantra is not about denying.  It is about experiencing the highest level of pleasure.  It is about connecting and full body orgasms that burn through your central channel and clear your energy and give you more clarity and consciousness.  However, to have healing orgasms it is necessary to learn how to control your sexual energy, and use it to burn through the emotional blocks and pain we carry.

As far as past partners having energetic ties to us. I don’t believe that.  I think it is just a new rumor being spread by fun killers. It is truly just sexual shame in a new form.  So no.  Comes to terms with the past, and leave it in the past and do what Tantra teaches be present.


Tantric Sex: What is ED

Male Energy

 Men often contact me because they believe they have a ED.  ED is the complete lack of ability to get erect including at night or in the morning.  If you do not wake up ever with an erection there is some medical issue that needs to me addressed.  However, when I see men for a session they are rarely suffering from ED, but instead have less firmness, or hardness or fullness.   And when asked what they are noticing with their erections it often turn out they are comparing their erections to their 16 year old erections.  That is like me wanting my boobs to look like they did at 16.  And a man can get those strong youthful erections, but not just by thinking about sex or seeing a naked woman or even by touching and pleasuring a woman.  That stuff worked when you were young.  At some point it stops working.  It does.  And that is where Tantra principles come into play.

The fact is the lingam is reacting to a lack of proper stimulation, a lack of attention by showing less interest.  Men can definetly get fully erect and very hard with the proper techniques.  Sometimes this also includes a change in thought patterns, and beliefs.  I have had men argue that the way they get erect is to watch the pleasure of the woman.  And my comment is, “What  about your pleasure?”   Men find it difficult to accept pleasure.  And often the shirt aggressive master action sessions to not make things better.  

Tantra does offer a better way. Through the following:

1-proper breathing and focus 

2-meditations to bring energy to the lingam

3-tantric touch 

4-the chi and lingam massage for healing 

My short e-book goes into the ways Tantric Sex cures ED or a personal session gives you many tools to help with this issue.  

Tantra: ED is it a part of growing old?

No!  ED is not a part of growing old.  Men in their 80’s can and do have sex and intense orgasms.  If men are healthy and have good circulation, good erections are not only possible but should be expected.   Good sex should be a part of life.  It is healthy and it is good for you.  

What I have enjoyed about getting older, is that I have better sex and I am more adventurous and open to new experiences.  And while my orgasms aren’t as explosive as when I was 17, they are longer, and more intense.  My body responds more intensely.   I am surprised by this myself.  However, it is true.  

I believe my connection to my body and pleasure and increased ability to have intense orgasms is because of my practice of Tantra.  Tantra makes my body able to generate a higher level of pleasure.  Often during sex I am fully aware of my energetic body and it is the most intense and spiritual experience.  

I have gone through periods of being unable to have orgasms.  It was one reason I began studying Tantra.  It worked for me.  And you might ask well how do you know it works for men?  Because I have seen it work with clients.  

It doesn’t work in the first 90 minute session, (sometimes it does) but it works if given time and practice.  Often men  make an appointment with me as a last resort and so I am struggling with negative energy and an attachment to an outcome that I can’t guarantee.  However, Tantra can cure ED if all aspects are dealt with, health, emotions, and sex.  

I have discussed health, and will discuss emotions and sex next.  I know this is a serious issue for men and their partners.  And I feel strongly that drugs are a poor choice and provide less than stellar results.  Plus they can damage the delicate tissue of the lingam. That is true.  

I have written a small ebook to help deal with this issue and give practical advice on how to reactive the lingam energy and to gently encourage erections that are fuller and more youthful. 

I believe in this because I have seen it work.  I know that it works.  And I know that tantric principles encourage stronger and better orgasms. 

 Cure ED through TANTRA

Can ED be cured?  In most cases yes!   If you are a reasonably healthy man Tantra exercises and principles can cure ED or at least give you sexual options that are satisfying both emotionally and physically.

Tantra teaches how to:

1-enliven numbed nerve endings

2- experience different types of orgasms

3-heal the lingam

4-gain control over sexual energy and experience full-body orgasms

Tantra isn’t going to cure ED over night or with one massage.  In fact, a massage session can bring up many issues involved in the ED problem and actually cause more problems.  One issue men have to overcome is the expectation that erections occur spontaneously, such when they were 16 or 18.  Here is a funny but true story.  My friend who is always dating said she wished that men would just get erect by looking at her like in high school.  I just starting laughing. And then blurted out, “Do you look like did in high school naked.”

We grow old.  Things change.  However the sexual energy in our bodies is still there, but often dormant by lack of attention and compassion.  Obviously, I am not going to give you the things I have learned and paid for away.  I have studied Tantra for a total of 13 years and have been a Tantra professional for 3 years.  I do know the things that work to regain strong erections.

And my e-book will give you those secrets in a way that if you practice them daily you will regain youthful erections.

If you want more help you can order a Skype session to go over the techniques.


CURE ED Naturally with Tantra Principles: Part 1 Symptoms & Reasons & Low T

 Can ED be cured?  Can ED be cured naturally?  Yes, in most cases. But, right now we are going to talk about symptoms and reasons.

There are 2 instances where it is difficult to cure ED, but most men don’t have them.

1-Circulation Issues from uncontrolled diabetes, heart disease, or any health issue that seriously disturbs circulation.

2-Prostate issues.

And for the full list you can go to http://www.healthline.com/health/erectile-dysfunction/common-causes-impotence#EndocrineDiseases2  However, they mostly come down to Circulation and Prostate.  And it is only in the advanced stages of these illnesses that complete ED will take place.

So for normal healthy men, natural erections are not only to be expected but should be welcomed. However!!!! Erections do change over time. Everything in our bodies changes over time. The strange thing is that men don’t think their lingam will every change and it should react the same way at 38, 45, 54, 60 & 70  as it did at 16.  At 16 everything was new, everything, and your body was at peak sex efficiency.

You see a pretty girl or a bra strap at 16 and get an erection so the focus becomes on the pursuit of women or men to make sexual contact with or masturbation.  But erections just seem to be there.  They are just there and you don’t think a thing about them.  Until about 39 or 52 or 64 when you notice they are not quite as firm.  They don’t appear as if by magic.  Doubt about your ability to get and maintain an erection begins. Then the stress of worrying about an erection makes everything worse.

Those thoughts you used to get that make you instantly erect, aren’t working.  The things you say while fucking don’t give you the same thrill. Even those special memories or images fail to get the same reaction.  And you are concerned you might be having an issue with ED.

Then you think maybe you just need a new woman or something or maybe your T is low.  Below is a good guide for Low T.  However, that is not usually the issue.  The real issue and this is only my opinion from working with men for 3 years is in the big head, not the little head. A lot of men at 39 are still trying to think about sex the same way they did at 16.  The sad truth is—it doesn’t work.  So coming tomorrow how to cure ED naturally using Tantra.

Low T

Many men notice a change in erections at around 38 to 46.  Occasionally, this can happen because of low testosterone.  Here is a good link for that information http://www.healthline.com/health/low-testosterone/testosterone-levels-by-age?m=2#Adolescence3.  There is a wide range of levels.  I do know that many doctors will say levels between 240-400 fall in the range, but many of my clients feel better between 600-800.  There are many good supplements on the market, but I would not recommend taking them unless you get a baseline reading.

To Quote: “Testosterone levels are at their highest during adolescence and early adulthood. The first physical signs of testosterone, or androgens, in the body are apparent during puberty. A boy’s voice changes, his shoulders broaden, and his facial structure becomes more masculine. But as men get older, their testosterone levels decline about 1 percent per year after age 30. “

This chart breaks down the normal ranges of testosterone by age and gender, according to the Mayo ClinicAfter 30 men lose 1% of male hormone a year.  So if you are at 650 at 30 in  50 years at 80 you will be at 600.  The idea of men losing a lot of male hormone as they age is exaggerated.  A man that has a high level of 1,000 will be at 950 at 80 hardly any  noticeable change at all.  However, I have found that men seem to function best at around 600 to 800.   

Male Female
Age: T Level (ng/dL): Age: T Level (ng/dL):
0-5 months 75-400 0-5 months 20-80
6 mos.-9 yrs. <7-20 6 mos.-9 yrs. <7-20
10-11 yrs. <7-130 10-11 yrs. <7-44
12-13 yrs. <7-800 12-16 yrs. <7-75
14 yrs. <7-1,200 17-18 yrs. 20-75
15-16 yrs. 100-1,200 19+ yrs. 8-60
17-18 yrs. 300-1,200
19+ yrs. 240-950
Avg. Adult Male 270-1,070 Avg. Adult Female 15-70