I am glad the craze for New Years Resolutions is basically over. There are still a few people hanging on trying to change their lives by beginning an exercise program or meditation or drop some weight or build a better relationship or do better at work. You can name a bunch of stuff. However, what I have observed over the years is that people don’t change very much. My sister-in-law has been losing and gaining back the same 75 lbs. for the last twenty years.
Does that mean I don’t believe in change, no. I do. I think change comes with daily habits. You get up you exercise, you drink water, you drink more water, and you eat whole foods that aren’t refined. Making a few small changes makes all the difference in the world over time. If you want to have better sex, you learn new techniques. You practice. You make sex and intimacy a priority in your life because it builds healthy strong relationships, and protects relationships from damage, plus it promotes better emotional health and physical health. One of the things I focus a lot on is breathing or pranayama. Breathing correctly is not something a lot of people do. They take short shallow breaths that signal to the body that it is a flight or fight response. This increases stress in the body and muscle tension.
One of the first things in Tantra that is learned is how to breathe. And how to breathe to increase the pleasure and intensity of orgasms. It is not a difficult technique. Their are also several Kundalini poses that strengthen the sexual organs and develop strength in that area along with pranayama. Tantra is not a complicated practice reserved for a few. It is a few easy changes in how you view sex and how you experience pleasure and learning how to breath differently.
One simple way Tantric way to increase the intensity and feeling of an orgasm and make it a more expansive experience is to take long deep breaths, to consciously take long deep breaths during foreplay. Rather than pant take a long deep breath in to the count of 4 or more hold and let it out slowly. when taking a breath in imagine the air flowing into your body filling your pelvic region with desire and pleasure. Let your mind be still and experience the feel of your lovers skin, and breath and touch. Experience as much pleasure as you want to give. Pleasure is limitless or limited by our own thoughts.
A small change in breathing patterns during sex, learning to still the mind and accept pleasure in all the forms that please you will expand your sex life and make for a blissful New Year.