I was researching and came across this blog entry and I believe it is said better than I can. Please follow the link: http://sacredloving.net/blog/2015/04/1061/
Tantra invites honesty
Tantra invites Honesty A key ingredient in Tantra, tantric love making and making your sex life the best it can be is authenticity. What if being authentic is the most mature, the most productive and fastest way of evolving in your sexuality? What if it is crucial in taking the next step toward amazingly blissful states of pleasure?
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