I see a lot of different types of men and women. Each person comes with different needs and issues and expectations. The wonderful thing about Tantra is that is offers help to everyone. And that is the wonder of Tantra-healing. Yet to be healed–one must be open and practice and accept what is. Yesterday, I had a beautiful and stellar Tantra day. By the evening I noticed I felt a bit off and went to bed. I woke up sick with a head cold. I don’t pretend to be well, I don’t take medicine to masks my symptoms, I rest, drink tea, take care of myself. I accept the fact I am ill and if I give my body what it needs I will be well faster than if I push myself, medicate myself or worse pretend I am well. There were things I wanted to do today. I wanted to go to lunch with my friend and I wanted to shovel the snow off my stairs. I didn’t do those things. My friend came over with presents and my neighbor shoveled my snow. Everything I needed was done. And I let my body rest. I have found that by resting and caring for myself when I get sick shortens the path back to health.
And how does this relate to my clients? Well, when I see someone when they first have an issue it is an easy path toward resolving that issue. And often even if a problem isnt directly identified the process of Tantra heals. I have 2 years of PhD work in health psychology, which is focused on why people refuse to do things that will bring them health. There is this complicated dynamic involving fear, insecurities and laziness that keeps people sick. Along with magical thinking that one thing will cure something. I see that dynamic with Tantra also. I ocassionally meet with people that think one meeting will change their —whatever. And sometimes it does, but not usually.